Blog - Caryn Hacker Buechel

Eliminating Bullying by Making Kindness Cool

A Necessary Societal Shift Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash My sandaled feet froze in the ribbon of unkempt grass, the distinction between school property and the city’s sidewalk. I felt the dew, cold on my toes while I stood outside the metal gates of the vacant Marjory Douglas Stoneman High School in Parkland, Florida. Tears spilled,...

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Thanksgiving with a Twist

Tips for a Stress Free Holiday Geometric Photography on Unsplash Whispers of Thanksgiving’s approach tiptoed in on Halloween’s heels like a ghostly turkey. The poultry’s initially faint silhouette opaques as the holiday nears and plans for the bird are intricately designed and then numerously altered. As a daughter, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother, I feel...

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Yo-Yo Love

The Narcissist’s Favorite Game

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How Love Can Look at 92

A Grateful Daughter Tries to Hold the Image Still. Photo by Tincho Franco on Unsplash This year began with a bounce, the heaviness of COVID lifting off December’s tail, setting January aloft, careful yet exuberant. I was excited to leave the N-95 veil in the past as regulations were lifted. Loved ones, who had been...

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8 Easy Steps to Ensure a Great First Therapy Session

A Psychotherapist’s Insight

Hurricane Ian

I was standing in line for a Seattle harbor boat tour when I heard the text’s ding. I pulled off my sunglasses and took a breath. Enticing aromas of oysters and chowder were distracting while I tapped the cell phone’s screen. A weather report flashed.

Six Easy Steps To Find Therapy Help

Congratulations, you've chosen to seek a trained, professional "guide" on your life's journey. The most intelligent and balanced people I know seek therapeutic intervention on occasion. That comment includes this writer, a retired psychotherapist.

A Baby Boomer Copes with Morning Stress Millennial Style

A Baby Boomer Copes with Morning Stress Millennial Style

It’s 1988, and 7:45 am. The aromas of hot coffee, buttered toast, and sliced bananas fill the kitchen. I finish preparing breakfast with one hand while the other hurriedly applies my makeup using the toaster as a mirror.

Five Essential Things You Absolutely Must Know About Love According to a Retired Psychotherapist

As I’ve grown older, sixty-six years and counting, and definitely wiser, I’ve learned much about this feeling we call love. Combining my personal journey (falling in and out of love) and my professional journey (developing a depth of awareness from the stories of others), I have grown immensely. I know that ‘love’ is a powerful...

Mother's Day Wishes

May Blog – Mother’s Day Wishes – Mental Health Awareness Post

He came into this world with outstretched trembling arms as his spanking-new voice introduced him with a timid cry. I instantly transformed from daughter to mother and then quickly back to daughter again. This new mother rocked my son within the ebb and flow of heavenly gratitude and earthly wonderment. Then intense rushes of maternal...

Our Emotional Connection to Jewelry is Founded in Science

I am a tiny vibrating speck within a massive Universe. My cells, like yours, vibrate around 75 Hz. Stare as I might at the skin on my palm, I cannot see the atoms jitterbugging in their predetermined pattern. But science has demonstrated that molecules in every natural substance move at specific frequencies, continuously dancing and...

A Satisfying Afternoon with Sanjay’s Mom, Damyanti Gupta

Photo credit: Time Magazine Darkness hung over Pakistan’s Port of Karachi as five-year-old Damyanti followed her parents up the metal ramp and onto the waiting cargo ship. She wore her most refined fork, a dress made by her ma’s own hand. Tiny fingers grabbed the railing as she ambled, sandwiched single file, between her mother and grandmother....

So, You Love an Adult on the Spectrum

Autism has crawled its way into our everyday awareness. However, the disorder has remained a mystery, as have those who carry its diagnosis. In the last decade, a shift occurred, altering popular thought from fear to understanding and acceptance. Today we explore minimal adult autism and love. Over the years, even the therapeutic manual which...

Fifty Shades: A Love Story or Pure Fantasy?

Fifty Shades: A Love Story or Pure Fantasy?

It’s February, the month dedicated to love, and Cupid is drawing back his bow, aiming for hearts everywhere. Toward the hopeful, the sheltered, the shattered, the unsuspecting, and the dark, the arrows fly true. The air is heavy with complex scents–deep red roses, fiery cinnamon, dark chocolate, and complex berry-red wine. Romantic cards shout loving...

A Vata Really Shouldn’t Marry a Pitta

“A Vata really shouldn’t marry a Pitta,” she said, her lilt of an accent floating above the incense. Tucked into the hidden depth of the luxurious spa at Leelah Palace Hotel in Chennai, India, the young woman continued the massage, hot stones sliding in the thick oil on my exposed back. She pushed the palm...

New Beginnings - 2022

New Beginnings

Between the sparkling firework bursts and the drop of the enormous Time’s Square crystal ball, 2022 has finally arrived. We waited for this past year, filled with fear, isolation, and loss, to end. Finally, it is time to take a well-earned deep, slow, cleansing breath. Fill your lungs to their total capacity while you count...

Caryn’s Relationship Solutions

Hi. I’m Caryn, a retired psychotherapist, turned author and motivational speaker. I worked with thousands of people during my thirty-year professional career. My life has been enriched by those I met, whether in private practice, group settings or corporate engagements. A therapist obtains higher education to understand techniques and concepts by those masters who came...